I love the thought of people thinking of me obsessively and wanting to be just like me.

  • MNByChoice@midwest.social
    29·
    6 days ago

    Jealous/envious of me? No.

    Impressed by me? Yes.

    Inspired by me? Double Yes.

    Learn a cautionary tale from me? No.

    Edit: proofreading better…

  • JPSound@lemmy.world
    16·
    7 days ago

    Here’s the thing tho. Nobody thinks about you even 1% of what you think they do. It seems like youre saying, “I need validation and want to be a part of the bigger world outside my own” which is totally fair. It’s even healthy, especially when compared to escapism and isolation. If your actions and behavior cause people to have a negative reaction, i.e. jealousy, obsessions, I encourage you to reevaluate what’s within yourself that desires that negative attention. People will think of you far far more if your behavior and actions gives those around you positive reactions. Trade the desire to make them jealous for inspiring them by being a healthy, upstanding rolemodel. Trade “I” statements for “you” questions. People crave and are drawn to those who show an interest in them, just as you admit to in this post. Make the world a better place, not a more anxious place and you’ll find all that attention you desire becomes a far more reasonably attainable goal.

  • klemptor@startrek.website
    9·
    6 days ago

    I remember your handle - IIRC you posted before about having Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Wanting people to be jealous of you seems apropos.

  • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.net
    12·
    7 days ago

    You’re thinking of envy, not jealousy so much: Envy is when you want something someone else has, jealousy is when you don’t want others to have what you have.

    I wouldn’t want people to be jealous of me, people act very poorly when they are jealous.

  • Reil@beehaw.orgEnglish
    2·
    6 days ago

    No; jealousy paints a target on your back. I’d rather people wish well for me and feel that my victories are at least indirectly theirs.

    Failing that, I’d want others to be unaware of my existence.

  • Alice@beehaw.org
    3·
    7 days ago

    Not really. I find when people are jealous they either try to cut you down in subtle ways, or they self deprecate and guilt trip just because you happen to have something going right for you.

    I’d like to be admirable, I think. I’d prefer to rub off on people in a positive way than a negative one.

  • hedgehogging_the_bed@lemmy.world
    3·
    7 days ago

    I’ve had people jealous of me. People who tried to steal my spouse or thought they would be so happy living my life.

    It didn’t make me one bit happier. Sometimes it made me suffer, that they didn’t see that things were really difficult for me in ways that were invisible.

    That feeling that I thought was wanting a perfect life was really needing anxiety meds I am way happier with well-adjusted meds.