I guess it’s not so much RTS. It’s like making hard decisions. It’s a lot like Frostpunk in that way if you’ve played that game. There’s an element of danger and your villagers can easily die, and sometimes you have to make hard decisions or sacrifices.
If you’re not part of the group, then don’t use it. I’d say maybe the only exception is “queer”. I’m fine with people using queer to describe their friends and family who are queer. Not everyone is OK with it though, but it’s pretty common. With queer, don’t use it unless the person you’re talking to self identifies as queer.