Gaps seem wide enough it if Person really wanted to end it. But I think it’s more about the message that people care about him

Buildup is key

(I rather skip the monotone scenes then miss the exciting plot)

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Mark as deleted and then delete in a big wave would be the usual database way. For example discord deletes messages like that. But as is the data is probably never lost with backups and such