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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • This is essentially why I’ve had such a hard time with this. Yeah, it was rude to ask for her to keep my dog for an hour and a half while I had a meal out. That said, if you can’t ask for what you need from family during hardship, who can you ask?!

    At the end of the day, I was asking to put my dog in her backyard for 90 minutes so I could grieve with my immediate family. It’s just so hurtful that she couldn’t attend the funeral, nor could she be bothered to let my dog exist on her property.


  • My Dad and brother attended. We were in my Dad’s hometown for the week, staying with different family members. We live 6, 18, & 36 hours’ drive away from that town.

    I literally wanted her to allow my dog to exist in her backyard for 90 minutes.

    On grad stuff, I’ve always felt as you do. I even gave up my seat so she could go.


  • It’s kind of amazing how insightful you are. My mom, Gin’s sister died years ago. She seemed to harbor some hatred for my dad, even though he had nothing to do with her death. She literally didn’t want them around.

    Yeah, it was rude to ask for her to (only) house my dog while we had dinner. I believed that family do these kinds of things in times of loss.

    It’s complicated by her resuming a relationship with my brother, who pressures me regularly to heal this.