Listening to music.

I was playing some music on my cassette player at school one day, but it wasn’t rock’n’roll according to the renowned expert that was discussing the situation with me, therefore it was “gay”.

It’s like one of those irregular verbs. I’ve got a cool fantasy, you’re a pervert, he’s in jail, etc.

It’s completely valid but needs careful use because it can be destructive. Unrestrained anger is way too common and a huge problem for everyone around those afflicted with it.

Not everyone is immune to swearing; I don’t see any point in causing unnecessary offence; and they contribute nothing to the meaning, except perhaps voicing a level of emotion which can be better expressed in other ways.

A support band for Madness. To call them crap would be an insult to all the genuinely crap bands out there. They went through crap and came out the other side. Then they went through whatever level of shitness that was and came out the other side. I don’t think anyone applauded them, except when they stopped making whatever ungodly racket they were making and went offstage. I’ve never been more relieved to hear a bunch of unmusical talent-free potty-mouthed morons finally STFU.

Being trusted in a particular location does not depend on your feelings but on whether or not your behaviour demonstrates that you have earned that trust. Looking for boundaries - how much you can get away with - does not demonstrate you can be trusted, unless you frame it from the other person’s perspective, for example you could ask your mom if she’s comfortable for dates to pick you up from a few houses down the road, and if not how far out you should go. This lets her set the boundary she’s comfortable with and you can gain trust by respecting that boundary and not attempting to push it - in fact go the other way and add 25 yards to it.

Your rights as an adult are that you now get to make your own rules and everyone else has to respect them. But the flipside of that is that you also have to respect everyone else’s rules, especially those of a homeowner.

That homeowner might have rules about whether or not you can wear shoes inside, or whether you can smoke inside, etc. When you own your own place you get to make rules like this yourself, and you will be within your rights to expect your visitors, tenants and offspring to abide by them.

If for example you make a rule that says “Don’t tell strangers my address” then you would be right to expect your children to abide by that rule.

This is your mom’s rule and you have to abide by it. Tell your dates to pick you up and drop you off somewhere nearby without giving away your home address, and when you want to invite them home you need your mom’s agreement first, because it’s her house and her rules.

BTW the “I want it my way!” attitude is that of a kid not an adult. Grown-ups make agreements and stick to them. If you want different rules you can try to negotiate with her, but you have to accept if she won’t change them. There are good reasons for not letting unknown people know your address.

A Sony mobile phone that couldn’t remember the time when it was switched off.

True it’s going back a while. But not so far that battery backed clock chips were uncommon.

Tennis, because in a pinch they can double up as snow shoes.

Which countries have been successful in implementing your preferred alternative?

I disagree. That’s a consultant-style answer. OP is an idiot newb three months into his first job with zero responsibility, and not in any position to “serve notice” or have any meaningful “professional opinion”.

“This is my first IT job, I’ve only been working here 3 months”

Then you need to learn this lesson quickly: YOU ARE NOT THE BOSS. The Boss is the Boss. Not you. You make your concerns known to him then you leave it at that.

“I’m considering talking directly to the owners about this issue” Yeah, going over his head is really going to go down well /s. As you have proven you are hard of learning, let me state clearly: it won’t, that was sarcasm. The owners will see you’ve gone over your boss’s head and when he says “I’ve had enough of this jerk, let’s get someone else in” they’ll be hard pressed to disagree with him.

“my boss’s refusal puts our operations at risk” Your boss already knows this. Especially as you keep banging on about it. What you’re doing here is heading for an unceremonious out-kicking. Your boss also knows a lot more about the business than you do. If he’s keeping that machine on Win7 then he probably has some good reasons to do so.

“I want to ensure I handle this professionally” No you don’t. You want to force your boss to do what you think he should do. If you were being professional you’d state your concerns, in email if necessary, then move on.

“I definitely feel like I’m going to be used as a scapegoat” That’s why you put your concerns in an email (ONLY to your boss, nobody else. Or maybe a sympathetic team member). This creates a paper trail so that if and when they come knocking on your door saying “Why did you let this happen! You’re fired!” you can point to that email which proves you did everything you could. (Which they won’t by the way. You’re an idiot newb three months into your first job. You don’t have any responsibility yet. So this isn’t on you.)

“I’m also planning on seeking employment elsewhere” It doesn’t matter where you work while you have this attitude. Newsflash kiddo: you’re the asshole here. You’re a newb three months into your first job. No matter what you think you know, you don’t know anything. Instead of trying to dictate to others what you think they should do, try to learn why they’re doing it differently from what you expect. Maybe you have to find somewhere else now; that boat may have already sailed. Maybe if you approach your boss saying something like “er, sorry I was an asshole, I thought I knew more than I do, can we start over and I want to learn from you” (but obvs phrase it better than that) then MAYBE you stand a chance of getting through your first year.

[Sympathetic mode on.]

We all have to learn this stuff and it takes time. Your boss also knows this, and remembers when he was an overenthusiastic hothead. So while all the above might seem harsh, especially the YTA bit, hopefully it’ll cause a course correction (which is my intent here) and you’ll be back on track to a successful career in IT. This position may still be salvageable but you need to go in on Monday understanding clearly that it might not be, and that it is your fault. And maybe you need to be fired a few times before this sinks in. Good luck.

Well let’s have a look at the Tory track record of implementing things effectively. How about Boris’s oven ready deal? Seems he didn’t have one. Was he lying? Or did he have one that he thought the EU would accept until they laughed him out of the room? How’s the Rwanda plan going? How much has it cost so far? How many flights have left? Hmm.

Maybe they could be called AIgorithms instead of Algorithms.

So where you come from, you welcome no races, no religions, no countries of origin, no sexual orientations, no genders; you don’t stand with them and they’re not safe, and the restrooms are a complete free for all?

A transparent ad centred on your mouse cursor.

If they have value to the company then how about sharing the costs of commuting? A 50-50 split seems reasonable to me. The company gets the value of those conversations, and the plebs get some help with all that fuel they now have to buy, at ridiculous prices due to high oil prices.

It’s nice that the bottom right one helps you practice your maths. “Exit 164 Miles” is just so boring.

I’m UK too. As I see it your options are one or more of:

1. ignore the incident without comment and don’t give him the satisfaction of upsetting you;

2. block him so he can’t do it again. If he needs your number for other reasons then he gave up that right when he sent you that disgusting stuff; now he needs other routes, which you can block as needed;

3. raise the issue with your team leader or manager advising that you just want it to stop, you don’t want disciplinary action taken against him, but if he’s a repeat offender then the company might take it further anyway (which would be appropriate and correct);

4. DO NOT go to HR. They are not your friend or ally. They are there to protect the company and it’s just as likely you’ll be terminated as him. HR is a last resort, if you can’t get any satisfaction from management, and you keep suffering this kind of abuse (because that’s what it is; I’m not exaggerating), only then go to HR and even then only after notifying everyone concerned - the bully/bullies and your manager - that’s what you’re going to do.

If this cockwomble gets fired because of sending that video to you, you have nothing to be ashamed of. It’s his own stupidity that got him there, not you “grassing him up” or whatever other cockney nonsense you might have knocking around inside your noggin. You don’t owe that wanknugget anything, especially after he sent you stuff you explicitly said you didn’t want to see.

If you want a scooter, get a bike instead. The bigger wheels make them more stable. -My Dad, not long before he was promoted to glory.