I kind of get what you mean and, while I think the way you’ve worded it is a bit cold and dehumanizing, I’m inclined to agree since I’m much more interested in what people do and how they act than what clothes they wear or whatever label they decide to brand themselves with.
At the same time… You don’t have to deeply care about how people see themselves in order to value their right to express themselves or be the person they want to be.
I have friends who transitioned from male to female. I still think of them as the same person and I don’t really care how they dress or what their personal anatomy is like, but I do feel proud and happy for them that they are living their best and working towards being the person they want to be, in the same way that I would feel good about myself if I lost that extra weight or whatever.
In other words, the clothes people wear, what genitalia they have, or what pronouns they label themselves with may be totally superficial and unimportant, but the happiness and authenticity that comes from living freely and being the person who you want to be are real and, I think, really important.
I know this might blow your mind, but people can be and do multiple things at once.
I knew an astrophysicist who loved trashy romances. Instead of asserting what you want from the people around you when you interact with them, maybe consider that humans are complex and made up of many stages of evolution that forced us to be interested in the social lives of others. (Sometimes as a preservation instinct; is the friend of my friend going to convince them to withhold food because I’m different? Sometimes as entertainment; is this person I don’t know in a stable romantic raltionship?)
And as a result, take a moment and recognize that the “I’m respectful of other people’s privacy by not wanting to know about them” angle only works if everyone believes in Live and Let Live. Which is very obviously not the case.
Right because people are just a sum of their accomplishments. And you said you don’t want to know anything about anyone. Now you’re pulling back from that to a different shittily explained opinion
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I kind of get what you mean and, while I think the way you’ve worded it is a bit cold and dehumanizing, I’m inclined to agree since I’m much more interested in what people do and how they act than what clothes they wear or whatever label they decide to brand themselves with.
At the same time… You don’t have to deeply care about how people see themselves in order to value their right to express themselves or be the person they want to be.
I have friends who transitioned from male to female. I still think of them as the same person and I don’t really care how they dress or what their personal anatomy is like, but I do feel proud and happy for them that they are living their best and working towards being the person they want to be, in the same way that I would feel good about myself if I lost that extra weight or whatever.
In other words, the clothes people wear, what genitalia they have, or what pronouns they label themselves with may be totally superficial and unimportant, but the happiness and authenticity that comes from living freely and being the person who you want to be are real and, I think, really important.
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@thantik
I know this might blow your mind, but people can be and do multiple things at once.
I knew an astrophysicist who loved trashy romances. Instead of asserting what you want from the people around you when you interact with them, maybe consider that humans are complex and made up of many stages of evolution that forced us to be interested in the social lives of others. (Sometimes as a preservation instinct; is the friend of my friend going to convince them to withhold food because I’m different? Sometimes as entertainment; is this person I don’t know in a stable romantic raltionship?)
And as a result, take a moment and recognize that the “I’m respectful of other people’s privacy by not wanting to know about them” angle only works if everyone believes in Live and Let Live. Which is very obviously not the case.
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If someone’s legal name was Robert, but they told you they go by Rob, would that be the same to you?
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Probably because of your:
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Right because people are just a sum of their accomplishments. And you said you don’t want to know anything about anyone. Now you’re pulling back from that to a different shittily explained opinion
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You sound kinda pretentious
Sociopath.
What if your child questioned their gender identity?
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Genuine curiosity. In glad to hear you’re supportive.